I love my kids. So let’s start with that.
But loving my kids doesn’t necessarily mean that I have to spend every waking moment entertaining them, playing with them or pampering them… and be required to maintain my sanity…
I love playing with them. And trying to share and build great memories that will build their character and build a stronger relationship between us… but recently I have been feeling that this may be doing more harm than good…
We reached a point that if I’m not physically either playing with them or giving them a specific activity to do … they black out and start nagging how bored they are ….
Their room is filled with toys that are still in their wrapping, and other toys that they may have played with a maximum of one or 2 times… but they still prefer to either play on the IPAD, Playstation or watch TV if I can not physically join or prepare a game for them.
Am I a Bad Mother?
At their age, we didn’t have an IPAD, nor Nickelodeon, nor Barney. My parents did get us a lot of toys but we spent hours playing, creating and imagining in our rooms all alone. So was that wrong?
I decided to test it out…
I turned off the electricity in the house one afternoon… (yes voluntarily and not an imposed black-out we are so used to in Lebanon…)
So when the nagging started I told them: “Sorry … find a way to entertain yourself I have work to finish…”
After a few complaints, they started to explore their rooms for something to do. And a bit of arguing and just a quick suggestion from me from time to time … it actually worked out…
They found a common game they can play together without me! I did referee a few times but at least they were playing together!
So I WAS always focusing on My relationship with them… but not THEIR relationship with EACH OTHER.
They started getting along more. Fighting but making up on their own.
When we go out, I always carry “ENTERTAINMENT” from coloring books, pencils, and any other games that they can enjoy … but once that “5 minutes” are up they start nagging how bored they are … so now I let them explore (keeping a watchful eye) but let them go out on their own.
In the end a few scratched knees is what childhood is all about!
I have to stop myself from commenting or advising too much.
BUT How can I expect them to be creative if i am doing and researching creativity for them all the time!
You are not a BAD MOTHER if you let them get bored and find ways to entertain themselves from time to time…
YOU ARE A SUPER MOM for letting them learn, explore, make mistakes and be creative … that’s what it’s all about in the end, right?
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